Types Of Depression
The Causes Of Depression
Causes of depression continued
4. The repression of anger
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5. Learning by imitation
A child develops much of its behavior and a large proportion of its thoughts, feelings and attitudes by watching and imitating its parents. Thus, if a child sees his parents get depressed at every setback or obstacle in life, as an adult he may himself react in a similar way to stressful events.
The wide variation in individual childhood experience is a factor of great importance in determining a person's depressive tendency later in life. Some people will never experience depression, some people will respond to trivial stress with depression, and some will only feel depressed after they have experienced many very stressful events.
6. Stressful events in adulthood
There are many cases of stress-related depression which have no obvious connection with childhood influences. Two examples are depression which develops after some personal success and depression in an unhappy marriage.
You may think it strange that success and achievement can induce depression, but there is no doubt that this does sometimes happen. Why? You may yourself have worked towards some goal, putting time and effort into reaching it, only to feel a sense of anticlimax and emptiness when you did so. Perhaps our objectives may be less fulfilling in reality than in our imagination. Consider a man who after many years struggle achieves his personal target of managing director of a company. He may suddenly realize that his life has become strangely 'empty', with nothing to work for and nothing to look forward to. Perhaps he realizes that he is isolated from his wife and family because he has paid more attention to his business than his home. Perhaps he discovers that he has been used by 'friends' who thought he might be able to help with their careers or promotion. Perhaps even his marriage was based on his wife's appreciation of his ambition and ability rather than his personality. He may become depressed because he sees himself as having succeeded in business but failed in some other areas of life. This will be made worse if he realizes that those other areas of life actually mean more to him than his managing directorship.
Depression in marriage is very common, a fact which is not surprising since there can be more sources of stress in marriage than in any other relationship. To take only one example, some people marry because one partner fulfils a need in the other. Such a marriage is fine for as long as the partners maintain the same relationship, but the trouble is that such interactions tend not to last very long. A classic example is the man who marries at the start of his career when he needs a wife who can skimp and save, bring up the children and run a house on a low income. Later, he moves into top management and wants a wife who can act as a perfect host, converse on an equal level with his colleagues' wives and support his ambitions. If his wife cannot or will not adapt to this role, the conflicts that arise could cause her to become depressed. In addition, the husband may deliberately undermine his wife's self-esteem with hurtful remarks about her ability, appearance and attitudes, and so make her feel even more depressed. If the couple go on living with this relationship, the situation can only get worse.
Another common example is the marriage where the husband wants his wife to look after him as his mother used to. This rather 'parent-child' relationship is all very well as long as both husband and wife stick to their defined roles, but as soon as one of them begins to move away from his or her role, trouble is not only likely - it is almost certain.
7 Ill health and health problems
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Here are some other common causes of depression:
the conflict in adolescence between dependency on one's parents and a desire to break away from them
Depression and anxiety
These frequently occur together. This is not surprising, for they
can be thought of as two extremes of a spectrum of possible responses to
stress. Depression is a direct result of stresses caused by
circumstances which exist now, or events which have happened in the
past; anxiety, on the other hand, can take the form of fearfulness about
what might happen in the future.
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