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Dealing With Your Depression

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Ways of coping with depression

Depression - types of depression

We all go through periods of unhappiness or sadness in life. Such emotions are a natural reaction to adverse circumstances or events, and usually pass fairly quickly.

Depression, on the other hand, involves more persistent feelings of dejection - perhaps even despair. And these are the depressive feelings that people find most difficult to cope with.

In its worst form, depression affects every aspect of a person's life and may even make him unable to live in a normal way.

With a mild depression, a person can live more or less normally, but he or she feels miserable and may not enjoy life very much. So the big questions for millions of people are: How do I deal with depression? Can you show me how to overcome depression?

Curiously, there are many people who never deal with their depression. They live much of their lives in a state of mild depression and accept this as normal, even to the point of believing that everyone else feels the same way: in fact they simply do not realize that they are depressed.

Other people are ashamed to admit that they suffer from depression because they consider it to be a sign of 'weakness'. And many people do not believe they are depressed because they think depression only refers to a serious mental illness.

Another group of people are never diagnosed as depressed because physical and emotional problems such as mild but persistent tension and irritability mask the depression itself. In a way, this is itself a rather sophisticated system of coping with depression.

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Before we go on, some ideas for therapy. I think one of the critical issues in depression is a person's sense of being out of control of their own life. It follows that anything which can change this may well help them to gain a sense of power. Although I have never seen it recommended for depression, I believe the use of techniques to manifest reality may well give a person a greater sense of control and allow them to begin to change their mental state.

At this point it is appropriate to emphasize two facts. Firstly, depression is extremely common: some estimates suggest that at any one time in Britain alone there are about one million adults between the ages of 20 and 60 suffering from some degree of depression.

Secondly, depression can strike at anyone, no matter how clever, happy or normal they may appear to be.

It is true that slightly more women than men experience depression, but these days it's potentially a problem for everyone. This is why, if you've been depressed for a long time, and you feel things are heading out of control, it can be very useful - and indeed essential - to consult with a qualified counselling service.

The counsellors who work at North London Counselling are all qualified and very experienced in assisting men and women with depression and anxiety. If you want to get a local recommendation, check out the BACP website or its local equivalent. Alternatively, if you want to check out manifestation techniques, you could check out the Law of Attraction.

There are three main types of depression:

1. Manic-depressive illness
2. Depressive illness, or endogenous depression
3. Reactive depression

Although manic-depressive illness does not really have a place in a 'self-help' website, a description of the condition is given: anyone who thinks they may be experiencing it should see a doctor.


Not just a hard problem to deal with if you suffer from it, this can also be the hardest form of depression for the people around you to cope with. Typically, periods of 'highs' alternate with 'lows'.

During the high or manic phase a person will be frantically active and take on more and more work, which he completes easily, often working 20 hours a day.

This apparently boundless energy is matched by an apparent lack of a need to sleep, and over-activity of the intellect as the sufferer dreams up all kinds of new ideas and schemes, most of which are quite impractical.

Nevertheless, he declares his intention of seeing them through regardless of criticism. Social pastimes increase dramatically. To take only one example, wild parties at which no-one can get a word in edgeways because of the sufferer's endless chatter are common.

Other behaviours such as indiscriminate sexual promiscuity or the senseless spending of money may be more harmful, but the person concerned does not see himself as ill and in need of treatment.

For all these reasons, and others, of the various types of depression, coping with manic-depressive illness is perhaps most challenging.

In the depressive phase, matters are quite different. The sufferer seems incapable of even the simplest action - his job, driving his car, any social contact. (This, as we shall see, mirrors the symptoms of depressive illness.)

Not all manic-depressives actually show such extreme fluctuations of mood, and sometimes one part of the cycle is much more obvious than the other. Fortunately, the condition responds well to treatment.

Not everyone who experiences dramatic swings of mood is manic-depressive. Far from it. They may just be showing the natural variability of human emotions.

Certainly I have met many families suffering from depression over the years, and generally they see knowing how to deal with depression in the manic phase as being just as difficult as coping with depression in the depressive phase.


These two forms of depression have distinctly different causes and cures, even though they may at times appear superficially similar. Depressive illness has a physical basis: it is caused by changes in the chemistry of the brain.

(This imbalance can usually be restored to normality with anti-depressant drugs.) Reactive depression, on the other hand, is an extreme emotional response to stressful circumstances or events.

In general, reactive depressions do not respond to drugs but can be alleviated by tranquillizers, hypnotherapy, counselling and other forms of psychotherapy.

The exception to these broad outlines is that reactive depressions sometimes seem to worsen and take on the characteristics of depressive illness.

Below are two lists of the symptoms of these two forms of depression (most people show only some of these symptoms).

A person coping with depressive illness may:

  • feel exhausted and have very little energy, even for the smallest task

  • lose interest in his or her work and have great difficulty in running his or her life as before

  • feel totally despairing and believe the future is hopeless

  • fall asleep easily but wake very early in the morning, at three or four o'clock

  • feel terribly depressed in the morning but improve as the day wears on

  • feel that his or her emotions are completely uncontrollable

  • attempt to explain the depression by referring - wrongly - to overwork', 'stress' or some similar problem

  • be unable to identify any event which might have caused the depression

  • show a marked slowing up of thought and activity

  • experience a loss of appetite, weight and sex drive to a greater or lesser extent

  • be highly agitated, restless and anxious

  • have extreme guilt about some trivial event perhaps long since past, and relate it to the depression

  • experience hallucinations or delusions

Whereas a person dealing with depression that's a reaction to stress may:

  • say that he or she feels moody, sad, depressed or unhappy

  • have trouble falling asleep but wake at the normal time, although feeling tired and depressed

  • experience a swing in the depth of the depression, usually finding that it's worse in the evening or when alone
  • feel worse as the day progresses

  • be anxious and irritable with associated fears and phobias have various personality problems such as a lack of confidence, poor self-esteem, feelings of inferiority or inadequacy

  • be less able to think clearly, concentrate, remember things

  • experience little or no loss of sex drive (although male impotency as a result of associated personality problems is not uncommon)

  • experience little or no loss of appetite or weight (although anxiety may lead to an increase in eating as a source of self comfort)

Although you might conclude from these lists of symptoms that the two conditions are clearly defined, and there are very different ways of dealing with depression of each kind, but there has been a great deal of dispute whether they're the same thing or not.

Depression my also be caused by physical illness, so if you have any kind of health problem, please get it checked out.

Any physical illness can promote depression, but some of the more chronic and painful ones will do so faster than others. And acute heartburn can be a symptoms as well as a consequence of anxiety and depression. Some useful resources for problems such as heartburn and acid reflux are to be found here - heartburn relief.

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There's no doubt that mental and physical health are closely interlinked, so by ensuring that you manifest reality in a good way, and follow the laws of nature which offer you greater control over your circumstances - the law of attraction comes to mind here - then you are likely to feel much better in both mind and body. Certainly, healing is a holistic process.

Under no circumstances should you listen to a relaxation tape or other mental-training tape while driving a car or operating machinery. The purpose of the tapes is to take you inward, but when operating machinery or driving you need to have all your attention available to deal with other people and other machines.

Although tapes are what you will be using in most of your work, many people find that the process works best if they have someone else guide them the first time or two.

So you may want to have someone experienced in mental training a therapist, coach, or friend guide you through your first few sessions.

If you don't know anyone with these skills, you can enlist an untrained friend or spouse to read one of the relaxation exercises in chapter 6 to you. After one or two repetitions, you can make your own tape of the same procedure.

The purpose of the tapes is simply to help you master a skill like relaxation or a certain kind of imagery. After you have a week or so of practice with a particular image, you probably won't need the tape anymore.

" is not possible to say that the simple reactive depression will be necessarily mild, or the endogenous [i.e., depressive illness] be severe, for they do not follow so simple a pattern ... The mild reactive depressions are [often] placed at one extreme and the severe psychotic depressions at the other end of the spectrum, with moderate and mixed depressions in the middle. This is a convenient way of looking at the problem, but it is in fact an oversimplification.

There are indeed relatively benign cases of endogenous depression that would have to be placed at the mild end of the spectrum, which is not, therefore, entirely made up of reactive cases . . . The main thing is to recognize the patient is depressed, and if simple listening and advice about obvious problems does not help, then the patient should be referred to a doctor competent to make an accurate diagnosis and give the proper treatment. (Watts, 1971).

Of course, anyone who thinks he or she has a depressive illness should see a doctor, for, as should now be clear, depressive illness is a medical problem not suited to self-help treatments. However, it may be helpful to discuss certain aspects of the condition in more detail.

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